There’s an evolutionary secret that can help you understand how to attract men and make them desire you instantly. And the real secret’s right here. If you have that special somebody you’ve been trying really hard to get close to, relax and try these very easy tips to attract a man you like. I’ve picked out the simplest little tasks that will go a long way, just by igniting that initial spark.
Get him, girl
Fact: A man’s sexual organ is not in his pants, it’s in his eyes. We men are visual creatures, plain and simple. Nature made us that way. It’s how we operate. Ask any man what happens when he walks in a new room, and five out of six will say something like, “I do an immediate scope and rank all the ladies in the vicinity.”
It’s not because we are dogs or bad guys. Beyond our rational and creative mind, we are simple mammals that are wired to continue the human race. In essence, we are procreating machines. Humans are some serious survivors. Scientists calculate that over 99.9 percent of all species that ever lived have become extinct. But not us humans. Why? Because our genetic wiring continues to evolve to always be masterful at mating and reproduction.
I am sure you have come across a woman like this, who somehow effortlessly has men wildly attracted to her. What is it that “those kind” of women are doing that makes them so irresistible? Well, in this article I will take you through some of the most common and universally applicable things you can do to make yourself more attractive to men and attract the man you want. I’m giving you this information all from a man’s perspective and I am warning you now… first of all, these are all my opinions at the end of the day.
What Men Want from Women: How to Attract and Keep A Man
Unfortunately, the providers of sex, unlike the providers of milk, are a package deal. Many women are often only willing to give sex in exchange for a loving relationship – love, romance and commitment. And with that, the stage is set for the battle of the sexes that has been raging since time began.
For the men, winning is all about trying to get sex for free. For women, winning is about being successful in using the attraction of sex to get the man to commit to a long-term relationship. Sometimes the man will walk away when he sees no chances of getting any sex. And if he gets some before committing, he may see very little reason for staying. This, obviously, poses a serious problem for women, especially those in search of a partner to settle down with.
There is a hidden, emotional need in a man’s heart that leaves him feeling constantly unsatisfied. Most men don’t realize what it is, and that it’s tied to the quality of their relationships. Once a woman makes it “click” for him, he’ll go overboard to prove his love for her.
Dating is hard for everyone, but there is a particular type of girl who attracts the wrong type of guy over and over again. She’s the type who often finds herself with mascara-stained tears running down her face after trusting yet another asshole with her heart. If you constantly find yourself claiming that your single status is due to the lack of good men around, it is time to reevaluate why that may be. Of course it is easier to lay blame on the opposite sex for their inability to commit, but it is often your own behavior that results in you dating one bad boy after another.
Girls are more easily attracted to a guy who appears healthy and stress-free, has a good level of testosterone which makes him appear more manly and chiseled, and has a protective streak in him which makes him a good mate material and a father. Guys, on the other hand, are more easily attracted to girls based on their appearance or behavior.
You probably are familiar with the idea that if you are standing up tall and carrying yourself in a confident manner, he will see exactly that in you. But what you may not know is that there are specific body languages that will signal to him that you are interested in him and attracted to him. Lean forward and show that you are interested in him. Face your body towards him and give him your undivided attention.
How to attract men in a way they can’t resist
A guy may like a girl for different reasons, but when it comes to physical or sexual attraction at first sight, her physical appearance and her behavior matters more than anything else. So if you want to attract a man and make him desire you, you just need to get his attention the right way. You need to keep this in mind though, love and attraction are two completely different things. A guy may find you extremely attractive, yet he may not end up falling in love with you for his own reasons.
A big piece of that mastery starts with the man’s complete infatuation with the woman, which, biochemically speaking, is sparked solely from the visual. By far the easiest and simplest way to invite a man to come into your kingdom. Men are more intimidated than ever to approach women in the 21st Century. Why? You all can do just as much as we can now, so we are lacking the confidence that our forefathers had when roles were more clearly defined. A warm smile can ignite a man’s courage to walk up to you.
Make eye contact, and then look away
A little eye tennis goes a long way. When you are sitting at that Starbucks, combine your smashing smile with 3-5 second eye contact. Two seconds is, “Did she just look at me?” Three seconds is, “I think she just checked me out, but maybe the guy behind me.” Four to five seconds is, “Oh, it’s on. She just checked me out. I got to talk to her!”
I am well aware that there are always exceptions and different people like different things. But what I am going to take you through is some of the most common and universally true things that make a man feel attracted to you. Making your mood a priority is going to be a huge win for you when it comes to being more attractive. Do things you enjoy. Take the time out to do fun things in your life where you can let loose and really laugh and have fun with things.
Whether it’s going out with friends and having a good time or spending time with family and living life in a happy, fun way. Experience life in the moment and don’t dwell on trivial things that don’t matter.
The Law of Attraction
To get a man you, first, have to attract him. Just like bees are attracted to flowers, beauty is what attracts men to women. Of course, the perception of beauty differs from individual to individual, depending on culture and upbringing. But every woman is beautiful in the eyes of some man. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Because men’s attention is triggered by the sight of beauty, it is important for a woman to look her best at all times, especially if she is looking for a mate. While the media has managed to redefine beauty in a certain way, every woman must have confidence in herself and understand that she is beautiful in her own, special way. Forget what the magazines want you to look like.
You act like you’re not interested in him but then get mad when he doesn’t call. Men aren’t mind readers. If you want a good guy to stick around, you have to let him know that. If you don’t respect yourself, how do you expect the guy to respect you? Anyone who is worth dating will appreciate a girl who knows her own worth and doesn’t settle for anything short of amazing. If you’re trying to find a good guy by getting wasted every night and dancing with your skirt over your head, chances are that only douchebags will come knocking at your door.
Attraction and how a man views a woman’s body
As we know that physical attraction plays a very big part in attracting a guy, you need to understand what a guy’s mind tells him when he sees you and sizes you up.
When a guy sees a girl’s physical assets, he subconsciously sees more than just your breasts or your butt. The right curves in all the right places tells a guy that a girl is fertile and has come of age, and that she’s healthy because her body can afford to waste energy on developing her curves which play the biggest role in sexual attraction.
Play with your hair
As you hold your grocery basket in one hand, slowly slide your other hand through your hair, give it a couple of tussles, and then let it slowly drizzle from the nape of your neck down to the collar bone. The sexiness and playfulness of your hair, combined with the tenderness of your neck will kick in a few mating chemicals inside of him that will ignite his hunt mode.
You can hit all the fine points of our age-old mating dance, but if you don’t pull away from the pack, then he might not ever go in for the approach due to the wall of your protective clan. Obviously, if you are alone you need not worry about this one, but if you and the girls or guy friends are out and you see a young buck checking you out, it might be time to take a stroll, which will invite him into your own personal space.
You might have heard that wearing a wacky outfit, getting a strange sex toy contraption or doing some super sensual and risqué is the only way to attract a man. Forget all of this. Trying to “do things” that you are completely uncomfortable with because you think it will attract a man is a horrible idea because you will not be comfortable. Being comfortable is essential when it comes to being attractive to a man. If you are comfortable, you will find that everything you do is naturally and effortlessly more attractive to men. The truth is that there is a man somewhere whose definition of beauty fits your looks. To alter your looks to fit some magazine’s definition of beauty is to hide yourself from your intended target audience and, instead, present yourself to the wrong audience. By trying to look like someone else you are not being yourself. In fact you are being a fraud. And that could explain why some women keep attracting the wrong type of men.
Don’t compete with him
If he goes out, do you also have to? If he didn’t message you all night, do you wait even longer to not message him? A relationship will never move along smoothly if you play the dating game like an ego-driven chess match. If you really want to be in a meaningful relationship then it is important to be open and honest without competing with your man.
Testosterone and a man’s sexual preference
Every man produces testosterone, a sexual hormone, in his testes. And women produce a small amount of testosterone in their ovaries. The more testosterone a man produces, the more manly he looks and the more sexually virile he is. His facial features appear manlier, his jaws are wider and more chiseled and his voice is deeper.
On the other hand, a small percentage of men who produce a lesser-than-normal amount of testosterone may find themselves getting more attracted to women who are less feminine and more controlling and dominant in the relationship.
For now, allow your genes and natural history to be the best wing man in the business. We definitely don’t need to be slaves to our primate history, but it sure doesn’t hurt to be aware of it and use it gain influence with the opposite sex. It’s a fact of life: men and human beings are visual creatures. There are certain things a man is going to respond to whether he wants to or not. I’m only giving you this information to help you… not to offend or be rude, so please.
Clothing can make a big difference when it comes to being attractive to men. Now, the main thing is that you wear clothes that fit your body well and accentuate your best assets. Now I am not saying to go out in stripper heels and a nonexistent dress that shows almost your entire body. Unless this is what you like and it makes you feel good, but don’t do that because you think it’s going to make men more attracted to you.
If you are a shapely or a curvaceous woman, for example, then wear clothes that will show your curves without necessarily going tight fit. If your most essential asset is your face, then enhance your facial looks to compliment what nature gave your. If you are endowed with large breasts, dress in a way that will define your bust without, of course, showing too much cleavage. You do not want to be walking around as if you are offering a pair of boobs on tray.
Pick up lines can be everything from clumsy to outright outrageous. Most men have to rely on memorized lines, which, for the most part, rarely fit the occasion. The point is that a discussion will be initiated and that is what is important. So do not spoil the occasion by making a mockery of his opening game. You can laugh about it later, when you are comfortably dating or married. But for now, give the man a break, will you?
Respect him and his time
Don’t make plans and cancel at the last minute. He went out of his way to ask you out, so follow through. Unless there is a real emergency you should always make an effort for the guy that makes an effort for you. Those are the ones you want to be dating, not the one’s that make you grovel for their time and attention.