An engaging, secure love relationship can be an ongoing source of support and happiness. Good relationships strengthen all aspects of life: your health, your mind, and your work. However, if the relationship isn’t supportive, it can be a tremendous drain. Relationships get better or worse depending on how much or how little we understand and invest in them. These tips can help keep a healthy relationship strong, or repair trust and love in a relationship on the rocks.
Opposites attract, but not when it comes to values and world views. Women appreciate men who make the first move, but if she’s legitimately interested, she will reach out in due time. Most people start out a relationship trying to be on their best behavior.
There is nothing sexier than a woman who is confident in herself. With that said, men tend to respect women who not only are okay hanging out on their own but desire that.
Pay close attention to how your partner behaves at the beginning of the relationship. How a person appears at first sets a precedent for how he/she will manifest as a long-term partner. If he/she is flaky, dismissive of your feelings, or not respectful, don’t assume you can change your partner. We can’t change other people; we can only change ourselves. If it’s good in the beginning it will continue to be good. If there are a lot of red flags you think you can “fix”, then you are bound to end up disappointed.
Don’t settle for someone who has zero regard for your feelings or wants just because you’ve been together a long time. No relationship is perfect and there will be conflict. What matters is the desire to solve the problem.
Good communication is less about saying what you mean, and more about defining what you say.
A relationship will either make the majority of your life happy or miserable. It is important to take your time and make sure that it is a wise choice before making a commitment.
Sex becomes less and less pleasurable in a relationship over time. Your brain gets habituated to the sensual stimulation from your specific partner as you are exposed to it repeatedly. It doesn’t mean that the love is gone from the relationship. Love still exists beyond the barriers of time, in the form of attachment, which becomes independent of sexual intimacy after the euphoric stage of mad love.
Do you have someone at work who consistently triggers you? Doesn’t listen? Takes credit for work you’ve done? Wastes your time with trivial issues? Acts like a know-it-all? Can only talk about himself? Constantly criticizes? Our core emotional need is to feel valued and valuable. When we don’t, it’s deeply unsettling, a challenge to our sense of equilibrium, security, and well-being. At the most primal level, it can feel like a threat to our very survival.
Dealing with difficult people is easier when the person is just generally obnoxious or when the behavior affects more than one person. Dealing with them is much tougher when they are attacking you or undermining your professional contribution.
Some coworkers attempt to undermine you and you constantly feel as if you need to watch your back. Your boss plays favorites and the favored party lords it over you; people form cliques and leave you out. Difficult people and situations exist in every workplace.